tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post436299624079237827..comments2023-08-01T04:49:56.840-05:00Comments on A Southern Garden by Becca: Seven Years LaterBecca's Dirthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18245107413671341365noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-76012892305100461192011-01-10T21:12:08.860-06:002011-01-10T21:12:08.860-06:00I went back to last year's post to make sure I...I went back to last year's post to make sure I had read it and commented, like I was thinking I had.<br /><br />As I was reading the comments here, it also occurred to me that not only does your writing this help others, but is also a part of your healing process.<br /><br />As a teen, I read a magazine article where a man was hiding in a woman's car, and she was attacked. That stuck with me, and even though I keep my car locked, I frequently look inside to make sure no one is in it.<br /><br />Thanks for the safety advice. I need to be more alert to what's going on around me.<br /><br />God bless your new year!Corner Gardener Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10631500918579405664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-64279513284861312922010-12-29T12:03:54.214-06:002010-12-29T12:03:54.214-06:00I agree....you are brave.I agree....you are brave.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13516943255464904093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-1200462273831574262010-12-08T19:27:54.916-06:002010-12-08T19:27:54.916-06:00thank you for sharing your story with us...a frien...thank you for sharing your story with us...a friend of the family was raped as a teenager...she now volunteers at a rape crisis center...Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11745604261113221887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-20309165119446104542010-12-08T14:52:29.008-06:002010-12-08T14:52:29.008-06:00Becca, this is the bravest thing I've ever rea...Becca, this is the bravest thing I've ever read. I'm so glad to hear you've risen above this horrific assault and that the person who did it is locked away. <br /><br />I always lock my car doors the second I'm inside my car and am typically aware of my surroundings. Thank you for the kind words you left over at my place today. I know I'll come up for air and be happy & vital again. It just feels awful while I'm "in it" and I have to cope with people in my life who don't know it's a temporary low.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />CarolynnCarolynn Anctilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12566204713508877389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-43637522357539422252010-12-08T08:53:53.641-06:002010-12-08T08:53:53.641-06:00The courage it has taken to talk about this incide...The courage it has taken to talk about this incident is truly appreciated. Thank you for being so articulate and having the strength to tell others to keep aware and keep safe. I am so glad you are here for your family and to be an inspiration to others and to help educate others. Thank you!<br />Your story shows us you cannot feel safe even in your own home without being extra vigilant. Let's add a reminder to all of our readers not to go to banking machines at night alone.-https://www.blogger.com/profile/04964347857163044017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-77794402061645894852010-12-08T00:54:04.626-06:002010-12-08T00:54:04.626-06:00Becca - how horrific and life changing for you. I ...Becca - how horrific and life changing for you. I can't imagine the pain you have gone through. I am so glad that this man is serving life without parole in prison. You are a beautiful and fantastic lady, and you couldn't be more right about us ladies keeping ourselves on guard. Let me also add that teens and men do too. My brother was kidnapped and murdered at 19 years old in downtown Mobile in broad daylight. I am sure many people would find it hard to believe a six foot four two hundred pound teen could disappear so quickly.<br />I am glad you are here, for your children and grandchildren. <br />Peace to you and much love from your friend Kim!Kimberly Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00011334298854922476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-33071833618087852382010-12-07T16:20:42.924-06:002010-12-07T16:20:42.924-06:00My dear friend, you are a brave lady Becca, to fac...My dear friend, you are a brave lady Becca, to face this dreadful thing to happen.<br /><br />Yes, you are brave indeed, to face this, - and then tell the story - I feel and hope that it helps you my friend, and how you have fought back and faced life.<br />God bless you.imachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14533409255215440113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-61579706019465276702010-12-07T15:54:25.851-06:002010-12-07T15:54:25.851-06:00What a strong woman you are.What a strong woman you are.Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12126209675266816687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-2331481483820593862010-12-07T15:40:04.922-06:002010-12-07T15:40:04.922-06:00Becca, I am so sorry to learn what happened to you...Becca, I am so sorry to learn what happened to you. I don't know that I would be as brave as you are to continue to live by myself. <br /><br />I started to say that I am glad we live in a safe area, but there really are no safe areas. Thinking we are safe is the worse thing we can do.<br /><br />Bless you, and my heart goes out to you.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247722361880680989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-14300677148938515372010-12-07T14:57:40.139-06:002010-12-07T14:57:40.139-06:00Hi Becca, You mentioned this before..I am still st...Hi Becca, You mentioned this before..I am still stunned by your bravery..and you are still brave. You are lucky to be alive..I am glad you are..and I am glad he is rotting in prison. <br />Sending you a hug, sharing your story may help someone:)Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-10360730745324619472010-12-07T11:33:29.636-06:002010-12-07T11:33:29.636-06:00I saw the comment you left on Gina's blog and ...I saw the comment you left on Gina's blog and felt compelled to pay you a visit, Becca. <br /><br />What you went through is every woman's worst nightmare. I think we are programmed with that fear deep inside each of us, going through our lives always hoping it will never ever happen to us. But it does! The statistics (especially in SA where I live) are horrific. <br /><br />As you say, we cannot live our lives in fear, all we can do is take the best precautions we can.<br />You are very brave, Becca and strong. Sharing this can not be easy, as it reminds you of the horror of what happened to you and that is the very last thing you'd ever want to have to remember. <br /><br />Thankfully your rapist has been locked away for good - I know that is probably no real consolation for you, but for the other women who could have fallen prey to him, that is a blessing.<br /><br />With loving hugs, Des.Desireehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01069419364783245762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-43408383801590341672010-12-07T10:56:25.652-06:002010-12-07T10:56:25.652-06:00HI Becca. I remember you writing a little about th...HI Becca. I remember you writing a little about this last year.It breaks my heart at the cruelty of people against other people.I think you are such a brave lady. You have given some wonderful tips to others to watch for.Thank you for sharing with us. I am honored to have met you through blogging. Hugs, LonaLonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07060003333138052194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-83286644476416627242010-12-06T19:49:20.920-06:002010-12-06T19:49:20.920-06:00Becca, I can't imagine how frightening that mu...Becca, I can't imagine how frightening that must have been for you or how difficult it must have been to write this. You are brave to share your story and warn others to be wary. Hugs to you.Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03865193802444007545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-29274637110315093252010-12-06T19:01:41.891-06:002010-12-06T19:01:41.891-06:00Hugs, Hugs to you Becca. I am so happy you are hea...Hugs, Hugs to you Becca. I am so happy you are healingPatsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17862394699499538591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-40755022238397629922010-12-06T18:08:25.145-06:002010-12-06T18:08:25.145-06:00Becca, I remember your previous post when you shar...Becca, I remember your previous post when you shared your story. I think you are such an amazing woman. You share very important information on how other women can try to keep safe.<br />Take care, I'm glad I've met you through blogging!Catherine@AGardenerinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05001060769253273283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-53305681068077162482010-12-06T17:18:58.253-06:002010-12-06T17:18:58.253-06:00Thanks for sharing your story, Becca. I think eve...Thanks for sharing your story, Becca. I think every time you tell it, it is helping someone! Time does make it better. Thank God you had a suspect that plead guilty. Lots of women never have a settlement of their cases! A big hug for you! NancyLemon Verbena Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07157574973101829448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-42095875975347316702010-12-06T15:40:23.503-06:002010-12-06T15:40:23.503-06:00I cannot imagine what all you have gone through, B...I cannot imagine what all you have gone through, Becca. I do know that I am very proud of you --for doing so well since that horrible event. And I'm sure you can do alot to help others. By talking about it --and talking about ways to stay safe is GREAT. <br /><br />God Bless You, my friend. Hang in there... TIME does help...<br />Hugs,<br />BetsyBetsy Banks Adamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16223591156634767330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-53119067335770685332010-12-06T15:05:54.184-06:002010-12-06T15:05:54.184-06:00Becca you are so brave in every way. Since I have...Becca you are so brave in every way. Since I have been following your blog I have felt incredibly close to you, I know no reason why as I have never been through many things you have experienced. Today is the first time I have cried for you though. <br /><br />It is strange that my give away also gave me your name. Our post in the UK is slower than it has ever been so I hope the necklace and earrings arrive with you soon. <br /><br />I will take heed of your warnings, my godmother was raped and murdered at the age of 80, so I am aware that there are some very strange people out there. God bless and take care. Diane xDianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14782670749466305626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-40004681642849269922010-12-06T14:32:45.300-06:002010-12-06T14:32:45.300-06:00Hi Becca, it is very brave of you to relive that a...Hi Becca, it is very brave of you to relive that awful ordeal and night to warn other women about the dangers we all think will never happen to us.You have not allowed yourself to be a victim but a very strong survivor, God Bless you.Peggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16336168195436906219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-24586900758655149462010-12-06T14:20:45.140-06:002010-12-06T14:20:45.140-06:00You are very brave to come out and mention this, a...You are very brave to come out and mention this, as it is painful beyond words. You care about other women, and you want to still help . You are a blessing, time is a painful concept to grasp for me now , and I know from you and others it is one of the medicines God gives us. Be safe, wish I could hug you, GinaAntique ART Gardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674268803389194210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-61606020338764302072010-12-06T12:53:33.634-06:002010-12-06T12:53:33.634-06:00God bless you, Becca! What an ordeal. I too was ...God bless you, Becca! What an ordeal. I too was raped in my early 20's by someone that was visiting a roommate of mine. But it was nowhere as brutal as yours was. I was 22, my roommate heard nothing and I told no one. After years of tears and praying and coming to know how God loves me, I don't carry this burder any longer. But it makes me so scared for my girls. The world is a hard place!<br /><br />Continue to heal, my dear. And know that God loves you dearly.Sandy aka Doris the Greathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16135704111702244735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-15435507285106095972010-12-06T12:25:55.362-06:002010-12-06T12:25:55.362-06:00I cried for you the first time you shared this, Be...I cried for you the first time you shared this, Becca. My heart still aches for you, to be so violated. You have done such a beautiful job surviving this tragic incident ... God & the angels were hovering to protect you.<br /><br />May you have a blessed day, today, sweet friend. I pray for you ...<br /><br />Hugs & love, MarydonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05697196986038110683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-67303962801503777612010-12-06T12:07:32.930-06:002010-12-06T12:07:32.930-06:00Hi Becca.
I'm glad I recently found your blog ...Hi Becca.<br />I'm glad I recently found your blog and added you to my blog roll. I knew there was a reason I was brought to your site.<br />I went through molestation as a child, however it (as you probably know) is not a brutal thing like rape. I am so glad you had the courage and strength to reach out and post this. thinking about it, I don't even have mace on me at all times.<br />I have no protection if I'm alone.<br />My cousins recently bought guns for the house. I was always scared of doing that, but my husband works 3rd shift and I'm alone with my kids at night (4 of them). My 2 dogs are little and also bark at anything. I don't know what else to say. Big hugs. I know these are things we live with every day. They affect who we are. They cannot break us. The only difference in my case is my perpetrator never got a day in jail. sad. he is still living in the state and I know where he lives. he leads a 'normal' life. no fair. hugs.~Niki~https://www.blogger.com/profile/05479427401865206504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-24528848216627211572010-12-06T11:58:11.255-06:002010-12-06T11:58:11.255-06:00Hey, I just remembered that 7 is the number for co...Hey, I just remembered that 7 is the number for completion in the Bible and the number 8 is new beginnings.Darlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09976608531478457839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3979720903165549695.post-36153323438686732772010-12-06T11:57:01.300-06:002010-12-06T11:57:01.300-06:00I remember reading something brief about this inci...I remember reading something brief about this incident Becca. Thank the Lord that you made it through this ordeal. You are now being used as a mouth piece for the rest of us women to pay attention and stop taking our safety for granted. It only takes a moment to change a life forever. Air hugs.Darlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09976608531478457839noreply@blogger.com